You don't have a control either. And I never assumed that anonymity was the best choice in this case. I've several times now said maybe, maybe not.
I believe you that the anonymity made you mad. I have no reason to doubt that. But I don't have complete confidence in how mad it would have made you to have been personally silenced. Even trying to think about that now I expect that subtle variations in wording or even timing can make a huge difference in the outcome.
Perhaps you have some vision of how a personal "shut up" would have played out and in this vision you are hugely less upset. I can certainly see that happening. But I don't assume that would have been the case, even though I am quite clear on the fact that the anonymity of the silence is a great source of (insert word here, I can't find a non-loaded one, ire, frustration, emotion, ...) for you.
And I certainly don't buy the argument that lack of anonymity will always lead to the best outcome in situations where temporary removal of CB privileges are deemed warranted.
I'm sincerely sorry that my choosing to not confront you directly at that time has so upset you.
As my perception of the level of emotion on your part regarding this increases (as you post new replies and I read them), I'm more convinced that you being more upset as a result of a personal rebuke is less likely. That is, I'm more convinced that temporary anonymity was the worse choice in this case.
I am sorry. And I won't silence you anonymously again.
- tye
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