I went down to Barnes and Noble and checked out "Code Complete". It does appear to be the book to buy. It will be my next purchase for sure.
Another book that I saw/skimmed through, that looks good is UML Distilled. It goes over how to use UML to sketch the design of your objects and codes. I think that this may be the route for diagraming the program/data structure. One thing I allways have found a need for is a way to diagram the structures in a more abstract way then code before actually beginning the coding process..