I can't tell what you're advocating, if anything.
I've heard it said that you can't define something by what it isn't. (It's true that a chair isn't a table, but "a chair isn't a table" isn't a definition.) I mention this because what I've read seems to imply "there is a better way than what is commonly advocated", yet there doesn't seem to be any explanation of what the better way is.
I think that different people work differently. They come to different methods based on their personal strengths and personal experiences.
I'm interested in reading about your experiences and the methods those experiences have taught you to value. I'm not so much interested in the advocacy of a better way that isn't presented.