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Re^2: Lying on the bed I made

by Your Mother (Archbishop)
on Jul 09, 2009 at 17:01 UTC ( [id://778630]=note: print w/replies, xml ) Need Help??


in reply to Re: Lying on the bed I made
in thread Lying on the bed I made

I went through the same situation last year and the advice I, and others, gave earlier did work1. Ok, I hope my use of contradictory bold text wasn't insulting. :) I think you make good points. I do believe that what one does for money is tied to one's psychology and I don't think that's bad or something to try to lose with therapy or chanting or whatever. Pride, and food for the children2, comes from what we do. It's natural and right. I'd say you did exactly the right thing as difficult as it was. Quitting stops being "exactly the right thing" when there are deep commitments (house, kids, etc).

1 ...mostly. The "dream job" has turned out to be less "modern Perl + best practices" and more piling the spaghetti higher on a frustratingly bad and tangled decade old codebase. Honest work though, unlike the last gig, and with a nice team and room to look around for someone who is really doing Perl right.

2 Accidental reference to an awesome HeavyMetal piece from... well, a very long time ago.

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Re^3: Lying on the bed I made
by Limbic~Region (Chancellor) on Jul 09, 2009 at 18:31 UTC
    Your Mother,
    Ok, I hope my use of contradictory bold text wasn't insulting.

    Not at all. Just a few sentences later I say "All these ideas can work but that heavily depends on you". I made the assumption that ropey, who has been a PerlMonk since 2001, probably had heard or thought of this advice before but - like me, didn't find it worked. Of course it all did work for me after the paradigm change. I could very well be wrong about my assumption. I suffered for years before some pretty intense soul searching made me realize that what worked for others but not for me wasn't because I was broken. I know my post will only be appropriate for a small number of readers and I should have explicitly stated the starting assumption - but if I could save even one person from the misery I went through it was worth it :-)

    Cheers - L~R

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