Without regard to the rest of this, I don't see "rudely disregarded" there or see that you have any reason for complaining that it took a week to get a feature added. I think you need to adjust your expectations; people usually want to have some control over the code they release, and even reviewing someone else's patch and putting out a new release takes time. It's even reasonable for that time to be in months, not days or weeks.
If you need a fix earlier, use a patched version. If you want to make it available for others, publish your patch or a distroprefs.