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Re^9: 20 most important Perl Best Practicesby BrowserUk (Pope)
|on Aug 30, 2012 at 17:16 UTC||Need Help??|
I got a reply, and (with permission) offer it here for posterity:
Why ask? Because I find her opinion more authoritative than that of the ghosts out of the woodwork.
What do I draw from her reply?
That even when men are trying to do the right thing and be sensitive to women, they often still do the wrong thing for the right reasons. Like shouting at a deaf man, or trying guide a blind man by grabbing his arm, their attempts to 'fix things' are often worse than what they are trying to fix.
Like the Heath&Safety-gone-mad of an archaeologist being forced to wear a fluorescent jacket, hardhat and goggles whilst using a trowel in a 6 inch deep scrape in the middle of an open field on a sunny day; overzealousness in trying to "be sensitive" to women is just as counter productive.
It engenders groans and apathy and worse, due to the overload of "do nots" and "must nots" and "Shhh! There's a girl coming in", which completely detract from the less frequent but far more serious issues & matters that *need* to be dealt with.
They are often at the same time, patronising, futile and unnecessary.
Think about the issues, talk about the issues, make it possible and desirable for women to point the issues out and suggest how to correct them, but don't overreact and don't do the "male thing" and try to 'fix' everything. Listen first, and tackle the big things in consultation with women. With luck, the rest will sort itself.
With the rise and rise of 'Social' network sites: 'Computers are making people easier to use everyday'
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