..it should be a space in which it's possible to say, "I am uncomfortable with this"
But that's not what you originally wrote.
You originally went on the attack - very first post. You weren't just uncomfortable with it, you found it "really offensive". It wasn't just maybe a little politically-incorrect, it was a whole construct to cloak agression in a strawman. And every male Monk was a carrier of vile privilege they had better acknowledge and renounce or they are part of a problem. That one post was infinitely more offensive by it's overt, unmistakable epxression than anything one could infer from the original joke through a biased lens. That's why you got flack back - because you overtly offended people.
And ever since, you made whole swaths of Monks feel that they were unwelcome. Quite literaly saying in some posts that because a person didn't adhere to your values they didn't really belong. You have been the one trying to impose a code on everyone and excluding any mindset that doesnt' conform to your highly specialized way of thinking.