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Re: Ruminations of an ex-PM monkby Malkavian (Friar)
|on Oct 15, 2001 at 19:23 UTC||Need Help??|
Well, much of what I'd say has already been said in the above posts.
From the time I've been around the Monastery, I've gained a lot of respect for your views, and your competence, and for you as a person.
I can understand being extremely peeved by someone running a votebot against you.. What I don't understand is your decision to leave because of it.
Whatever your exp says, and whatever the rep of your nodes gets to, doesn't alter my perception of you as a highly competent person.
The person behind the words, and apart from the arbitrary 'exp' rating is what counts. Not the count of exp.
The act of bot voting you down (and yes, I do see a difference between bot downvoting a troll and bot downvoting a productive member of the Monastery) reeks of petty spite. Childish and pointless.
And I can also understand taking time away from the Monastery to fume and rail in your own fashion, without subjecting everyone around you in the Monastery to vitriolic rants for months on end.
I've stepped back from several online communities in my time to do just that; put my feet back on the ground, thicken my skin, and get back to where I was.
But, I've always gone back when I calmed down. Quite often, not as prominently as I was, but I went back.
My view was that it was a real shame to let the bad guys win by being petty. Karma always tells... If not in this, then in some other part of life.
In future years, when they grow up, they may well feel a little stab of shame when they think of this.. If so, then it's their burden to bear every time they remember.
If they remain petty, then like finds like, and their circle is likely to be a group of shallow backstabbers.
Some happy life that'll be...
I'm not asking you to stay right now, or do anything, other than to ask you if letting them 'win' by chasing you away is what you want.
Go away for a while, and think. Not just of the irritation of a few irritating people, but of the others that you respect and those who honestly respect you, the person.
When you're good and ready, come back.
Like a good bar, this place has the old timers round the fire, occasionally getting railed at by passing yobs, but in general, just fitting in their hard won places..
When you come back, I very much suspect that there'll be that seat by the fire still waiting for you, and all you need to do is sit in it, and nobody will ask anything that you don't want to say.
I hope your vacation from Perlmonks for a while does you good, and I look forward to seeing your name on the site sometime in the future.