Re^9: Politeness (to one another) is a virtue

[Argel]

in reply to Re^8: Politeness (to one another) is a virtue
in thread Politeness (to one another) is a virtue

I was specifically referring to your involvement with a certain new member exhibiting, to be charitable, very poor behavior. You implicitly conceded that your business kept you from being fully engaged. And my response was referring specifically to that type of situation. Which, btw, should have been obvious given what I was quoting and the subject matter of this thread.

In the end, you were, more than anything, an enabler for said poor behavior. And certain specific Monks and The Monastery in general suffered for it. This thread is proof of that.

[Anonymous Monk]

If your referring to me, that "poor behaviour" was the direct result of being insulted, derided, lied to, and held captive by the powers that be on this site with no recourse but to continue trying to win the argument or face leaving behind a permanent and totally undeserved record of failure.

What would you of done?

[Argel]

This site has a very strong, academic feel to it. Maybe some people hold a grudge, but by and large, most don't. And so, the answer to your question is, in many ways, very simple: Clean up your act on the poor behavior front (e.g. no more knee-jerk reactions like taking things too personally), get in the habit of toning down your posts before hitting the submit button, help others when you can, ask interesting questions, debate things instead of hurling insults, don't worry if others disagree with you, and just keep hanging out here. And if you are really serious, own up to your part in all of this and apologize for it.

I think I actually upvoted a post of yours a while back, thinking that maybe you had finally come around to joining the community. And in the end, that's all there really is to it: do you want to fight the community, or join it? Academics debate stuff all the time, and there's always more than one way to do something in Perl. So if you want to take a new approach, then go for it, ignoring the naysayers. And appreciate the fact that several Monks on here wanted to help you out.

Bottom line: people make mistakes. The important thing is to use what you have learned from yours to become a better person.