BTW it is realy a sign of respect to capitalize a persons name
No, it's really a sign of respect to be called as you wish to be called, and not force your standards on others.
For example, I go by "Randal" only. Never "Randy". When someone addresses me as "Randy", hoping it will make me feel more comfortable because they're using a familiar name instead of a formal name, it actually makes me more uncomfortable, because it shows they don't really pay attention to what I consider important. It's about respect, not about convention.