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its okay to be sexist in private, just don't do it in front of the gals

Go back and reread what I said. I did not say that. Please do not distort my words.

Aha, I see your difference, you said I honestly don't understand why more people don't get this idea: public and private behavior are not the same and should not be the same.

so basically its ok to be sexist amongst friends

or did I misunderstand like BrowserUk did?

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by Ovid (Cardinal) on Sep 04, 2012 at 07:54 UTC
    so basically its ok to be sexist amongst friends

    Yes, but that only works due to shared context (and I mean "sexist humor" not "being an S.O.B. who demeans women").

    I am white and my wife is black. I've made horribly racist comments in front of her and she's laughed herself silly. Why? Is she racist? Does she think less of herself because she's black? Is she so stupid that she thinks I would don a Klan hood? No, no, and no.

    And you know what? I also say sexist things to her, as humor, and I won't apologize for it. I don't have to watch what I say around my wife because there's nothing I would say that would offend her. If anyone is so socially inept that they cannot understand why things I say privately to my wife are not always acceptable to say publicly, there's really no point in trying to explain and I won't do so.

      they cannot understand why things I say privately to my wife are not always acceptable to say publicly,

      But ... *I* didn't *say* anything. Publicly or privately.

      And "no person" said anything sexist, publicly or privately. It was a character, in a cartoon, on another web site. And *I* didn't write the cartoon.

      You, a human being, used the 'c-word' (in full), directly in a post, to make a point.

      The cartoon writer, put a sexist remark -- that if "said in public", would be far less offensive -- in the mouth of a cartoon character, then had another cartoon character admonish the first for the for saying it, to make a point!

      (The very same point that you and others were apparently trying to make however clumsily and ill-judged in the delivery.)

      And you get applauded whilst I'm berated?

      There's something rotten here ...


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      If anyone is so socially inept that they cannot understand why things I say privately to my wife are not always acceptable to say publicly, there's really no point in trying to explain and I won't do so.

      Whom do you consider socially inept in this situation?

      A simple and tangential chuckle, a stupid LOL, got blown, grown, and erected into a dogpile mountain of straw-men and offensive anecdotes , by a cacophony of an uncomfortable admonishment machine

      A single solitary remark with the mere shadow of a whisper of a hint of an allusion to a sexist statement, one out of one million nodes, got injected with so much "SHHH" hot air, it would have popped the largest saline implant on the market today

      If you get a pimple, don't rub it into a festering foot sized hole, to announce you're not the kind of community to stand for pimples

      I'm sure if BrowserUk had been /msg'd he'd have removed the link -- but then you would miss out on the opportunity to learn