in reply to OT: memory to share available

Ah. I can relate to this. After having two great reviews (and bonuses) a few years back, I hit a bad patch where my collapsing marriage was affecting my work output (shocker). My team lead (a good friend at the time) helped me through that, taking me out for supper and asking the all important "Are you OK?" question. So it came as a bit of a surprise (typical British upbringing making light of a difficult situation) when this big boss (not my team lead) told me in my annual review "You're not getting any bonus this year. How do you feel about that?"

Gee, I don't know. Miffed? Disappointed? Aloof? Light as a feather? Perplexed?

Don't worry .. no doubt you did your best, given the resources available to you. You may even be surprised that some of your work continues to be used by future, grateful developers. There's Perl work out there if you want it, I'm sure.

Alex / talexb / Toronto

Thanks PJ. We owe you so much. Groklaw -- RIP -- 2003 to 2013.

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Re^2: OT: memory to share available
by shmem (Chancellor) on Jan 02, 2021 at 18:58 UTC
    Ah. I can relate to this.

    I can, too. To what you say. After being bogged down elsewhere and elsewith (not a story to tell here) I went into clinical custody somewhere and there incurred a difficult partnership, which facts I didn't deny applying or offering myself for the job at $company. "No problem, we have recurrent psychological review", yadda yadda, no such thing. As things turned the bad way in relationship, nobody looked, nobody cared (which I don't reproach) and, typical for someone affected by Toxoplasma gondii (which I also reported at hiring time), I was unable to raise hand and care for myself. So things went spiraling down, and there's really nobody to blame. Not the company, not me either. That's life.

    As Gert Postel said (famous impostor, being just a postman he managed to get employed as senior physician and head of department of a psychiatric clinic)

    As someone is, that way they act; and there's no freedom of will, that's all bullshit.

    So, it's time to get to the will forming powers of the manifest will, which is hard to impossible to change. This is not only true for myself, but (as stated above) for all of us in this changing times.

    Is it possible that I'm a conman, impostor, masquerader? Dunno. You judge.

    Another restart, hopefully.

    perl -le'print map{pack c,($-++?1:13)+ord}split//,ESEL'