Would it be enough that all items who wish to be notified of the destruction are notified in a timely fashion? This would be vs. at the time of the actual freeing of the memory, which the DOD run is needed for.
Being right, does not endow the right to be rude; politeness costs nothing.
Being unknowing, is not the same as being stupid.
Expressing a contrary opinion, whether to the individual or the group, is more often a sign of deeper thought than of cantankerous belligerence.
Do not mistake your goals as the only goals; your opinion as the only opinion; your confidence as correctness. Saying you know better is not the same as explaining you know better.
I shouldn't have to say this, but any code, unless otherwise stated, is untested